Tony's sexuality - Discussion

[beautybecks.livejournal.com]

Hi y'all,

Just wanted to start a little healthy discussion/debate about Tony's sexuality. Do you think he is Tim-sexual, bi-sexual, homosexual, pan-sexual etc? How do you factor his on-screen relations in regards to his sexuality, particularly Jeanne Benoit?

Personally, I see Tony as being very gay and all his talk of women is over-compensating. His infactuation with Tim has been there since the very beginning. I see him being mostly celibate and having slept with women in his past until he realised he was gay and sort of stopped the sex all together. Alas, the sexual frustration he gets from working round Tim day in and day out has driven him into the arms of a few men, but he tries to forget about that. For me, the forced relationship with Jeanne Benoit actually helped sell him as gay to me, he may have fallen in love with her eventually but I think a part of that was acting and sex, sex which he was reluctant about to begin with. It was supposed to be a fake relationship to begin with but I think that can be extended to include the fact it was fake because he is gay. Cole Porter married and loved his wife but that didn't make him any less gay.

What are your thoughts?

Comments

[subway-silence.livejournal.com]

I always liked the theory that nobody is a 100% straight or gay (Kinsey scale, I think?), and Tony is no different in my mind. You fall in love with a person, not with a gender. I'm not sure if Tony ever really, truly loved Jeanne. It was more the idea of a some what normal life, settling down, starting a family. He cared for her, but in love? I don't know. The more I think about it, the more I realise how messed up he became from that assignment. And the more I disliked how Jenny got him involved in it.

I think Tony is a pretty traditional guy when it comes to views on family and love. Not that he would dissaprove of other people's choices, but he has trouble seeing himself in a different setting than the typical man + woman = 2.1 childeren. Untill he realises that he feels something for Tim that isn't just colleagues, friends, or brotherly affection. He's probably been attracted towards guys before, but never did anything with it, because it didn't fit in with the picture he had of himself.

[beautybecks.livejournal.com]

The Kinsey scale does suggest that some people are 100% gay, others are 100% straight but that most of the population is somewhere inbetween. There is a difference between sexuality and love but I see your point. I think maybe the reason he codes gay for me is because I can't see him as sexually attracted to anybody apart from Tim and there was always feelings along with that attraction.

Interesting thoughts, thanks for sharing.