Tony's sexuality - Discussion

[beautybecks.livejournal.com]

Hi y'all,

Just wanted to start a little healthy discussion/debate about Tony's sexuality. Do you think he is Tim-sexual, bi-sexual, homosexual, pan-sexual etc? How do you factor his on-screen relations in regards to his sexuality, particularly Jeanne Benoit?

Personally, I see Tony as being very gay and all his talk of women is over-compensating. His infactuation with Tim has been there since the very beginning. I see him being mostly celibate and having slept with women in his past until he realised he was gay and sort of stopped the sex all together. Alas, the sexual frustration he gets from working round Tim day in and day out has driven him into the arms of a few men, but he tries to forget about that. For me, the forced relationship with Jeanne Benoit actually helped sell him as gay to me, he may have fallen in love with her eventually but I think a part of that was acting and sex, sex which he was reluctant about to begin with. It was supposed to be a fake relationship to begin with but I think that can be extended to include the fact it was fake because he is gay. Cole Porter married and loved his wife but that didn't make him any less gay.

What are your thoughts?

Comments

[canspy.livejournal.com]

Sexually, one of my favourite reads on Tony is that he thinks he's a big toppy alpha male, but he's intrigued by the possibility of Tim taking a bit of that control away from him for awhile. ;D

As for whether he identifies as gay or straight, I honestly don't think he's ever sat down and put a name to things. Labels have worked for him for most of his life so he's not about to reject them as too confining so he doesn't bother fiddling with them.

[beautybecks.livejournal.com]

Nice image, I like the idea of Tony trusting Tim so much that he'd actually allow Tim to make him vulnerable (sensory deprivation, tying his arms etc)

Tony shouldn't have to put a label on his sexuality, in real life I don't think anybody should have to. Hmm, thanks for your thoughts :)

[canspy.livejournal.com]

Do you think there's anything in his past that would freak him out about that? I know he and Tim were knocked around a lot when they rescued Ziva...

[beautybecks.livejournal.com]

Ah, I hadn't thought of that. I've invented a few fictional reasons why Tim would freak out but I never thought about it within the actual show and never thought about it in regards to Tony. As for having hands tied or sensory deprivation, I think someone could be coaxed through it, even if it was their trigger because the partner can let their presence be known. I can't see Tim ever pushing Tony to do something he doesn't want to do but I can see Tony doing it, trying to prove something to himself. Hmmm.....