This is such an interesting discussion so Ithought I would add my 2¢.

I'm with Subway in that I believe that Tony is just sexual; he is attracted to the person not the gender. But I don't think that he necessarily sees himself stuck on the 2.1 kids and minivan. He spends way too much time into making Timmy jealous and getting his attention. I don't think that Tim was his first male partner either.